Why It Works
When you’re out at the bar or even just at a social event you’re probably pretty used to looking aloof or having a hard time finding people to come socialize with you. Your close friends know that you’re not being a jerk, but the cute guy across the room doesn’t. He just sees a woman who looks like a, you got it, a bitch. But since you’re not speaking rudely or acting above anyone you come off as strong when your facial expression is mixed with your actions. That’s where the appeal comes in. Men love a strong woman, whether they admit it or not. It could be that a strong woman can serve them some sass or because they think she’ll take control in the bedroom. Whatever reason, take advantage of it.
How to Make It WorkWhen you notice a guy that you might want to get to know better, be around him. Let him see you in your natural setting for a while before you approach him. He’s going to get your vibe and wonder about you. That mystery is sexy, so when you walk over and get a drink that’s near where he’s standing, he’s going to be intrigued. This is where it takes a new direction. If it’s possible, don’t say anything to him. That keeps up with the idea that you’re mysterious. But you don’t want to miss an opportunity just because he’s too shy to say hi. In that event, keep the mystery for after you talk to him. He’ll like how straightforward you are. It’s okay to smile and laugh a little bit, but keep in mind that you don’t want to suddenly change your demeanor. That looks tacky and fake. Instead just keep your RBF at the ready. More likely than not whenever you stop smiling you’ll return to resting position. After you’ve intrigued him ask if he’d like to come back to your place. Again, this is the forward approach, so you’ve got to actually be forward. He’ll either say yes and go with you or say no thanks and you’ll brush it off like it’s nothing.
If you’re sticking with the mysterious theme, let him approach you and make the moves. You can act like you care less and he’ll still be begging for it. We all want what we can’t have, so your lack of interest will make you more desirable. If this sounds like playing hard to get, it is slightly. You just have to know when to give in and let him get you.